Ever go through a phase when you felt like you were killing it? I recently did; I was taking control of my life in so many ways – progressing professionally, my personal relationships were getting stronger, and I had laid out a plan for my blog. But I looked in the mirror and didn’t see that success and happiness so, like any female going through a metamorphosis, I dyed my hair and revamped my wardrobe… starting with my purse.
A little background: I had this purse. In my mind, I named it my ‘work purse’, which translated to ‘bag into which I haphazardly threw shit and, on occasion, my lunch or a sweaty water bottle’. There was no longer any structure holding it upright, and when I placed it on my desk it would sag on one side, as if its droopy sadness was directly correlated to my physical appearance. Pen marks littered the lining and frayed straps were begging to be retired. Every day, I walked into work hating that bag- an object that wholly opposed my state of mind.
So I started the hunt for a new bag. I didn’t have a specific designer in mind, but was willing to drop some cash for something that looked as great as I felt. I wanted something classic, but edgy. Not too boring and free of oversized logos and clunky hardware. I settled on the classic black Moon Bag from J.W. Anderson – versatile as a shoulder bag or clutch, well made, minimal enough to remain timeless with an architectural feel to grab attention. It truly is the perfect bag.
And isn’t that what fashion is about? It follows you into every stage of your life, from that tortured preteen phase to adulthood. On days when you want to disappear into a sea of blankets, tears and assorted chocolates (refer to Elle Woods’ post-breakup meltdown), your favorite pair of sweats helps you temporarily sink into a comfortable oblivion. When you’re feeling over the moon and confident, your clothes represent that too. And fashion is blind, so even when you feel like you’re at your worst, you can throw on a pair of glitter heels and your favorite new purse and your subconscious will follow.
I heard an interview with Leandra Medine on Refinery 29’s Unstyled podcast and, in true Leandra fashion, she had some great advice. “Take the time to think about when you feel like the best version of yourself. Try to metabolize what it is you’re wearing when you feel like that person and put those fucking clothes on and don’t take them off until you can do it naked.” How easy? Do and wear what makes YOU feel good – everything else will fall into place.